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Welcome to the www.InnerSanctuary.org.uk, the Website of Lifeline. This site offers information and help to victims of child abuse, incest and domestic violence. This is a place of peace, safety and beauty. A sanctuary where we can share our pain and sorrow, our joys and hopes without fear of ridicule or reprisals.
We have links to other sites that offer help and we offer a contact form that you can access in the navigation bar at the top and bottom of every page or by clicking on the tree below.
What does Lifeline do?
Lifeline offers advice, practical help and support to anyone with an issue of child abuse whether sexual or otherwise, whether past or present.
Lifeline offers counselling, Lifeline offers ongoing support, someone ready to support the sufferer and family with whatever problems and needs they have.
Lifeline deals with all areas of child abuse, right across the social spectrum with people from all walks of life regardless of colour, creed or background. You too can help sending donations to the main Lifeline address or by paying directly into the Lifeline bank account:
Every child is vulnerable to abuse. Today we have to face the possibility that someone will harm our children. Very many children will be victims of sexual abuse. Very young children as well as older teenagers are victimised.
Almost all of these children will be abused by someone they know and trust.
Sexual abuse can be physical, verbal and emotional and includes:
Sexual touching and fondling.
Exposing children to adult sexual activity.
Having children pose in a provocative manner.
Spying on children when bathing, in bedrooms/ toilets.
Rape or attempted rape.
It also involves tricking, bribing, threatening, pressuring children into sexual awareness.
Because most children cannot or do not tell about being abused, its is up to concerned adults to recognise signs of abuse. Physical evidence is rare. Therefore we must look for behaviour signs. Unfortunately there is no one behaviour alone that definitely determines a child has been abused.
Often children do not tell because they are:
Too young to put what happened into words.
Are frightened or bribed by the abuser to keep the secret.
Feel confused by the attention and feelings accompanying the abuse.
Are afraid no one will believe them.
Blame themselves and believe the abuse is punishment for them being "bad".
Feel too embarrassed to tell.
Worry about getting themselves or a loved one into trouble.
Children who have been abused feel many different and overwhelming emotions,
Of the abuser.
Of causing trouble.
Of losing adults important to them.
Of being taken away from home.
Of being "different".
At the abuser.
At other adults who did not protect them.
About having something taken from them.
About growing up to fast.
About being betrayed by someone they trusted.
Guilt for not being able to stop the abuse.
For believing they "consented".
For telling-If they told.
For not telling-If they didn’t tell.
As concerned adults, we want to protect children from all forms of abuse, but we can’t always be there to Do that. We can, however, teach children about abuse in order to increase their awareness and coping skills without frightening children, we can provide them with appropriate safety information and support at every stage of their development.
Although even the best educated child cannot always avoid abuse, children who are well prepared will be more likely to tell you if abuse has occurred. In order to protect children, we need to teach them.
Are You A Victim of Domestic Abuse?
Does your partner ...
Keep you short of money?
Use intimidation to get what he/she wants or get you to behave how they think you should?
Make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
Make you feel you are unable to make decisions on your own?
Make you feel inferior to him/her?
Cause you to believe that you couldnt manage your life or any aspect it without them?
Treat you roughly - grab you, push you, yell in your face, force you into a sitting or kneeling position?
Slap, punch or hit you?
Call you names?
Use the excuse of alcohol or drugs as a reason for being nasty to you?
Blame you for how they feel or act?
Pressure you sexually?
Tell you there is no way out of the relationship, that if you leave you will be found?
Call you several times a day to ask what you are doing or where you are?
Prevent you from doing things which you want to do?
Tell you need to be taught a lesson?
Do arguments lead to violence of any kind, - physical, mental, sexual?
Feel afraid of your partner?
Worry about what mood your partner will be in when they return home?
Make excuses to people about your partners behaviour?
Believe you can make your partner change if only you could change something in yourself?
Always try to keep the peace for fear of upsetting your partner?
Always do what your partner wants instead of expressing your opinion?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they will do if you leave?
Feel afraid or worried all the time at home?
Feel afraid for your children - always asking them to keep quiet and out of your partners way?
If you feel several of these emotions then you are almost certainly a victim of domestic abuse. Domestic violence is not ONLY physical violence. People can be and are victims of domestic abuse without realising it. Constant shouting, intimidation, being kept short of money and freedom are also signs of domestic abuse. Harsh words and put downs to control you are also form of domestic abuse, and emotional abuse is one of the most damaging forms of abuse, both to yourself and your children. Very young children are victims of abuse, even though you may think they are too young to understand. Children are affected by violence whether or not they have witnessed it--- whether they are 6 weeks or 16 years. Domestic abuse can be recreated by your children later in life, not because these children have been born violent but because they believe that this is the way to behave in a relationship. It is what they have learned. Violence is learned behaviour. One thing many victims realize is that focusing on fitness and exercise is a great way to put you in a positive place. We definitely recommend putting on your sneakers and the best running belt you can find, and going for a run!
Adrenaline and fun can be great medicine. If you're experiencing depression, one of the best things you can do is delve yourself into your hobbies, and maybe try something new. If you've ever thought about riding a motorcycle, now is the time! You can rent them which is a great way to test them out. You can even rent 3 wheel sport bikes from this t rex motorcycle agency. Nothing quite feeds your soul like the wind rushing by on the open road!
If you feel you may be a victim of Domestic abuse, Talk to someone now. Without help the violence will continue. Violence almost always becomes worse. We at Lifeline are here to help you with practical advice and information.
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